While it's nice to have a perfectly laid out ritual with all your tools on hand, sometimes life throws a curveball at you and you have to make do.
On Easter, we had to put down my anam cara, my Aunt's beloved 18 year old Schnauzer-Poodle mix, Buttons. I grew up with Buttons; it was due to our instant bond that we took her home instead of her sister, Patches. She was my baby, my beloved pet before I was able to own a dog of my very own. There's also a certain irony that she came into my life: like Anpu and Anupet, Buttons was as black as night. Even in my mundane life, I was always watched over by a black canid.
No one was expecting it, least of all me. Sure, she was 18 and moved more stiffly with each passing week. But she was still so full of life that I thought she'd live to see at least 19 or 20. When my poor hysterical Aunt called to tell us the news, it hit me like a sack of bricks. The only thing I could think of was that it was my duty as a Daughter of Anpu, Wepwawet, and Anupet to do everything in my power to ease the pain of Buttons' passing for her and for my family.
I couldn't bring my tools and I was too much in shock to think to bring some prayers from my Book of Shadows, so I winged it: I donned my talismans, anointed myself with some of my magickal oils, and used my very outfit as part of the ritual. I wore a black shirt with a black skirt and boots: black, like the fur of Buttons, black like the land of Kemet, and black like the color of my Jackals. For eyeshadow, I wore silver and lined my eyes with kohl, almost mimicking the Wedjat.
As we brought her to the emergency vet, I was Googling Kemetic akhu prayers on my iPhone and even making up a few of my own, right off the top of my head. Once we were in the room, I began invoking my Gods who dealt with death and dying-Anpu, Manannan Mac Lir, Wesir, Het-Hert, etc and praying for an easy passing for her.
I started petting her and sending energy to her in my attempt to make her transition from this world to the Next as quick and painless as possible. I sent a few prayers to my akhu too, asking them to aide Buttons on her journey and to welcome her with open arms.
I held on as they put the IV in, and whatever I'd been doing, this spontaneous ritual…it helped. One moment she was here, and the next, I reached out to sense her energy, and she was gone.
When we got back to my house, the first thing I did was to find a picture of Buttons and place her on the Ancestor Alter in my living room, and over the course of the next few days, I wrote a series of poems in her honor and to thank my Gods for Their help in my spontaneous ritual.
While I pretty much made up this ritual as I went along, I believe that my efforts did help: that night, as I was falling asleep, I bolted upright because I could swear I felt Buttons nuzzle my knee. I'd like to think it was her way of thanking me for what I did.
Sometimes, the best and most effective rituals are one borne out of spontaneity, need, strong emotions, and some energy work.

Amanda, I am so sorry that you had to go through this. There is nothing more painful than losing a family member, and our pets are indeed family members. It's somewhat synchronic that you posted this today, as I had to have one of my cats put to sleep yesterday. She had a long battle with lymphoma and she just couldn't fight anymore. I was just about to post the ritual I did for her when I saw this post. :( I am so sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, Ilyssa. I am so, so sorry about your cat-the hardest thing in the world is having to let go of a beloved pet. May Bast take her gently to the Afterlife. *big hugs* She's in good company now, with Buttons and Patches.
ReplyDeleteThank you Amanda. *big hugs back* She's definitely in good company now, both with Buttons and Patches and with all the other kitties that we've sent to Bast over the years. She will never want for playmates. :')
ReplyDelete*hugs* I was so sorry to hear that Buttons had died. And I have to say how amazed I am that you were able to pull all that (and yourself!) together in the middle of grieving. The most I've ever been able to do in that situation is pray and try to channel as much peaceful, loving energy to the animal in question.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I love that you chose your clothing and makeup with intent so that you could incorporate them into your magic. I'm a firm believer in the idea that everything can be symbolic and meaningful, and that can be especially helpful in "emergency magic" situations.
Ilyssa: *hugs* Definitely! They're romping together in the Duat, and I have no doubt Anpu and Bast are keeping an eye on them for us.
ReplyDeleteThea: *hugs* Thank you. I honestly don't know how I did it, either. I just feel that as Anpu's Daughter, I should do my part to help my loved ones cross over and make Him proud. Plus, I really don't like breaking down like that in public-I prefer to grieve in private so I can really let it all out and mourn. Besides, my Aunts, my Mum, and my little sister totally lost it and I knew if I let my grief go, we'd get nowhere and Buttons would be in pain so I bottled it up and donned my armor so at least one of us could think straight.
Yea, I agree with that idea as well. I have a silver and black wedjat, and since Kemet=Black Land and Anpu is shown as a black Jackal, this was the best I could do as His Devotee, especially since I don't have a Jackal mask yet (I'm itching to get my hands on one, but it'll have to wait until I get a full-time job) to help in my rituals.
Amanda, Ilyssa and I have been talking about getting together at some point for a Craft (or 'Craft) Day to make deity masks. I found a source for some inexpensive blank mask bases. I realize that you might eventually want to get a more professional/elaborate mask at some point, but if you want to join us you're more than welcome! We're just going to have to figure out a time and place that's good for all of us.
ReplyDelete(This is all part of my "I'm not good at crafting, but I like 'Craft crafting" thing.)
Oooo, I'd like that! It'd be nice to have one until I can afford to get the leather ones I've had my eyes on. Let me know when you guys are thinking about doing that, and I'll be there. :)
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